We all have a little voice in our head that whispers to us throughout the day. Sometimes it tells us that we are doing awesome. Other times it tells us that we aren’t working hard enough, or aren’t giving our children enough time, or our product/business/service isn’t good enough.
Habits take 21 days to make and far longer to break. So instead of trying to break the habit of negative self-talk, why don’t we replace it with positive self-talk? Let’s make it a habit to encourage ourselves.
When it comes to mothering, I can tell my boys all day long to not jump on the couch. Unfortunately the way that a child’s mind works, they cut out the negatives. In other words, if I say ,”Don’t jump on the couch” what they are really hearing is “jump on the couch.” Isn’t that an amazing gift? We do that too actually. If we tell ourselves, “I will not fail,” the subconscious part of our mind only hears, and more importantly acts on, “I will fail.”
Keeping this in mind, when my boys jump on the couch, I want to make sure they are getting the right message into their minds. So I usually try to say things like, “You may jump on the floor,” or “couches are for sitting.” Then I often have to physically take my son’s hand to help him sit down or go onto the floor. Positive wording and following through with an action.
Why can’t we give ourselves the same treatment? Instead of telling myself, “I will not fail,” I tell myself, “I will succeed.” And you know what? I have told myself that so often now that the little voice in my head tells me that I only know how to succeed. I believe (most days) that, if I put my effort into something, then there is no way I will fail. If I have a slow month with sales, I tell myself that it would have been better if I put in more effort. Then I start telling myself things like, “I’m going to have more sales this month and this is how I’m going to make it happen.” If my sales don’t increase immediately, I remind myself that it takes time for hard work to pay off and, if I continue to push, the work will pay off. Sometimes it comes to my detriment actually, this positive self talk. Sometimes I feel like I can rule the world, if only I had the time!
When it comes to your own business, your “little voice” may manifest itself in the discouraging words said by (usually) well-meaning loved ones. If you train your own little voice, however, those outside negative influences will slowly decrease. You can’t argue with confidence!
Tessa is the wife of a dairy farmer and mother to two with a third on the way. She has a background in business building, finance, sales, and marketing. At this point in her life her main focus is on her family, the farm, Faithfulone Designs and Aimed at the Heart.
I am a Mother of two and active Aunt to six kids ranging in age from 3 years to 24 years. I am a seasoned enthusiastic Mom and Blogger that is highly active in school activities, crafting, and an award-winning volunteer at Second Harvest Food Bank. I love to Cook and Bake and share my gift with Family and Friends. Owner of TOTS: Business and TOTS: Family.